#68 Failing To Succeed

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I'm a Change-Optimist. I believe in a Growth-Mindset. I believe people often make excuses to do nothing.  That is they find reasons to not make a positive change. They ONLY see "what's blocking their way" and ignore the benefits of going for the change.

You don't exercise because it's cold outside.

You don't play the piano because getting a piano into your house requires you to bring it up 6 stairs. 

You don't cook dinner because you don't want to wait in line at the grocery store.

You don't buy a house because of the hassle of finding a realtor, getting a mortgage, seeing open houses, finding a lawyer, moving, and you're pretty sure you can time the market because "you know prices are going to drop".

You don't go back to school because you don't think you can learn something new at your age, it's too expensive, or the world is changing so fast by the time you finish your new found knowledge will be obsolete.

You don't invest your money because you see the risk that you could lose money.

You don't save money because ... of all the things you "need". How did people even survive 100 years ago without all the "things" we have today, you might think.  But you survived up til now without all those things.

Failing to succeed is usually a case of not trying at all. If you don't try, you have 100% chance of not succeeding.

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This is one of the hardest things to implement.

"Failing, to Succeed" = Trying, Trying, Trying, and Trying some more

We are afraid to try new things.

We don't normally see a cup of purple bubbly liquid and take a big gulp of it without first asking anyone around what it is, is it safe, smelling it, and maybe tasting a tiny drop of it. But it could end up being something amazing like a cup of steamed taro, blended with milk and honey.

In our work, we default to what we know we can do. If you've been in the same job for a couple of years, you probably already have this feeling that you can't leave because you don't know how to do anything else. It's part of the culture. Recruiters and hiring managers read your resume and categorize you as one thing, the last job you did. Over the last 10 years, I can't tell you how many jobs I've applied for that are outside the scope of my past experience. It's for sure in the hundreds. But I can easily tell you how many interviews I got from those applications. Seven. And these seven interviews turned into 3 jobs.

Is this discouraging? Perhaps. But should I not even try?

"Failing to Succeed" has a 0% chance of success, but "Failing, To Succeed" has a 1% chance of success.

I had to fail hundreds of times, trying, trying, trying so that I could get a hand full plus two interviews. And I did get jobs in things that I had no prior experience doing. It's not impossible. And those jobs shaped my life up til now both in the relationships I have, the wealth I hold, and the knowledge I wield. 

You have to be willing to fail hundreds of times so that you can get that 1% success. Every failure is an opportunity to cross something off your list so you can go find your success.

If you weren't doing what you are doing now, you would be doing something else.


Make The Right Excuse 

You exercise because being unhealthy will stand in the way of you living a happy life

You play the piano because living in your childhood dreams is exhausting 

You cook dinner because waiting in line at the grocery store once a week is less work, less time consuming, and less cost than going out every day.

You buy a house because why should you pay someone else's mortgage.

You go back to school because when you were a kid and people asked what you wanted to be when you grow up, this is not what you thought you would be.

You invest your money because if your money isn't growing then it's shrinking. 

You save money because the less money you have saved, the more you feel like you can't leave your crappy job.


Save Money Retire Early is written by Jon Lo, a barely 30 something change optimist, and personal finance guy. I believe anyone can be rich or poor, it's what you save that makes the difference.

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